If bating can take you to cloud nine, combining it with prostate stimulation gives you the premium version. It’s like hitting the turbo button on your joystick—it seriously enhances the experience.

The P-spot is located inside your orifice, but you don’t need to go deep into the canal to reach it. It sits near the perineum, the area between the balls and the anus. A well-lubed finger can reach it easily. You can also stimulate the prostate externally by massaging this region.

When done right, prostate stimulation is incredibly pleasurable. It’s known to improve prostate health by increasing blood flow to the area (though scientists note that more research is needed—any volunteers?). It’s a natural stress reliever—just one loving finger, and you can feel your tension melt away. Plus, it opens the door to a different kind of erotic exploration between you and your partner.

It’s refreshing to see that prostate stimulation isn’t as taboo as it used to be. Men—gay, straight, and bi—are not only sharing their experiences but also teaching others how to stay open-minded and elevate their sexual journeys. Are you a top? Well, the P-spot can give you harder, stronger erections and might even lead to a full-body orgasm.

I say that with confidence because I’ve seen it firsthand. I’ve had all kinds of men on my table—shaking, shivering, and completely overwhelmed during climax after a proper prostate massage. Many were first-timers, some more experienced—and the effect can be absolutely mind-blowing.

Personally, it was a journey. Finger-fucking isn’t the same as a prostate massage, and that’s what I used to get—until I met a talented man who began working on my prostate while we were kissing. From that moment on, a whole new level of pleasure was unlocked. To achieve that, it is important that you feel safe with the person who’s exploring you; and you should be able to voice any discomfort, or cheer them on if they’re doing it right.